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Ceo1:
I dont wish to get into a heated verbal exchange, but I wanted to express my view regarding your posts.
You come across as quite haughty. Please forgive me if I am wrong, but your tone almost seems to convey that you perhaps have an erroneous belief that in order for you to continue being successful at blackjack that you need to be less than cordial.
Consider how your posts are being received. The original poster was turned off by your sarcasm. You then insulted another (who is trying to help) with your second post, and of course that didnt go well either.
The context of this forum is not some kind of military setting. We have a blackjack player opening themselves up to us for help. Especially as a veteran player (not to mention someone who sounds to be at least 55 years old), please consider that you are gambling when you assume that your hard nosed approach is a good fit with someone. Even if the person does, at some point, receive your message as you say you intended, consider the accompanying fallout: two people likely hurt by your comments, not to mention that you are putting YOURSELF in a difficult spot. That is, perhaps something inside you knows your behavior is wrong, and you carry this negative emotion with you between postings.
You perceived the original poster to be mistaken with their approach. You responded inappropriately.
I perceived your response to be 'mistaken' in terms of its method of delivery. However, I am really hoping to not be hurtful to you (i.e., I am not responding inappropriately).
By the way, some may say that a carefully worded reply (so as to avoid offense) is weak or ineffective or preening. But I believe that if such a reply does not reach its target (in this case, you) so that the 'target' still cannot humbly sees 'the error of her/his ways' (and perhaps instead prompting the 'target' to get still more forceful and defensive, continuing to focus outward to find fault rather than take personal responsibility, and, for example, posting something like, "This Overkill person is overanalyzing me with his long-winded psychobabble"), then the target is not yet ready to hear the truth.
"The unexamined life is not worth living." -Socrates
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