How Much Do You Keep in Your Checking Account

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I have to weigh in here.

I am a female AP. There are those on this forum who know exactly who I am, but I choose to be "one of the guys" to protect my identity.

The best part is that I have inherent cover, because just like Wave, most people assume I'm too stupid to be an AP. Twice I have been playing at a table with a male partner, and HE got the tap, even though I had more money on the felt. There have been countless times I've left a table, because I spotted another counter, but he's never spotted me even though we're raising our bets at the same time. A woman who can count? Unheard of...

Giving your wife an incentive made me laugh. As IF we're that easily manipulated. But men? Look at all the dumb things guys do for piece of ass. Posters here have actually talked about the problem they have concentrating with a pretty dealer, or a hot cocktail waitress.

To be clear, this isn't ALL men. It isn't even MOST men nowadays. And frankly, in my experience APs are less likely to be chauvinists than your run of the mill pit boss. The smartest ones realize that women can be just as good as the guys, and in some instances even better. Running a spotter/BP play? Few people suspect a female BP, and smart APs know this.

And lastly, treating your wife as an equal isn't PC. It's what decent men everywhere do every day.

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Giving your wife an incentive made me laugh. As IF we're that easily manipulated. But men? Look at all the dumb things guys do for piece of ass. Posters here have actually talked about the problem they have concentrating with a pretty dealer, or a hot cocktail waitress.

Believe me, women use sex all the time to get what they want.

However, in any marriage when there is a disagreement about something, someone has to rule the roost. Sometimes it is the man and sometimes it is the women who calls the shots. It really depends on the person's makeup. The person who makes the final decision takes the other person's wants and feelings into consideration, but usually one person becomes the "boss" and makes all the important decisions.

Now in my case, I have three children. In one of my son's marriage there is no question he rules the roost. In fact, I think he treats his wife like shit making her work full time and do most of the household chores from cutting the grass to snow blowing. She doesn't really have to work because he makes twice as much as I ever made, but now he decided he wanted a brand new half million dollar home. He has all his money tied up in that new home. He made his wife switch from part time to full time work. To top matters off he says he can't afford to come visit us this year, and wants me to pay for his entire trip.

Now my other son, has just the opposite situation. His wife rules the roost. Whatever xxxx wants she gets. She will decide where they go for vacation. If I was married to her I think the marriage would last about three minutes. This son is pretty easy going and pretty much just goes along with the flow.

In my daughters marriage, everything is more balanced. No one really is at the extreme which is probably best.

Now when I got married, my Dad gave me just this one piece of advice and nothing else. He said the man rules the roost. The important decisions are suppose to be made by the man. So you kind of know where I stand, but really its the individuals makeup who determines who is the"boss." Sometimes its the wife and sometimes its the man. And it really depends on how bad someone wants something. After our kids were mostly grown my wife wanted a dog. She kept pestering until I finally gave in. It was really important to her and made her happy. Well, after about 14 years the dog died. Here we go again. She wants another dog and some how she found out who had puppies. We were just going to go and look at them, not buy anything. Well, within two weeks of our dog's death we had another damn dog. I tell her everyday our present dog is the last dog we are getting.